Yes, I am ready to place my order; I’ll have the fried tilapia dinner fried extra crunchy with macaroni & cheese and Cole slaw for my side orders. I want Sunshine Lemonade to drink with light ice and for dessert please add some homemade graham cracker crust apple pie. The attendant rings up your order and repeats it back to you…you verbally say yes my order is correct. The attendant then says your order will come to $14.50. You pull out the money hand her a $20.00 bill, she gives you your change and says your order will be ready in 15 minutes.
That was such a simple task of ordering your favorite food, but do you realize that ordering the ideal man uses the same process and is really that simple. So why are some single women saying, ”I can’t find a good man?” Going on date after date only to feel frustrated and sometimes rejected because you have high expectations that this could be the one, but 10-15 minutes into the date you realize it was a complete waste of time.
I know from experience that feeling all too well, going through the motions of putting on your best outfit, getting your hair fried, dye and laid to the side. Adorning your face with your best cosmetics and you even stopped by the car washed to make sure everything about you gives the impression of being flawless. All that for a date that ended before it began.
So what’s the issue? Why are you not able to get the type of man that you fantasize about in your head? I am going to take the guess work out and tell you my sister that you are not using the ideal man ordering process. You don’t know how to place your order for the ideal man, but I am going to be generous and tell you the 4 hidden secrets to placing your order.
MAKE A DECISION
1. Make a decision that you are ready for love, and you will release the sabotaging language and actions that repel the ideal men from being attracted to you. Sabotaging language is when you say things like, “no matter what I do I keep attracting all the jerks.” Because what you say is what you get!
EVOLVE YOUR LANGUAGE
2. Evolve your language and passion to articulate what you like and stop rehearsing what you don’t like. Have you noticed that when you place your order for your favorite food, you don’t discuss what you don’t want. You only talk about the items you want and you share how you want it. The same with placing your order for the ideal man. Only talk about the qualities and aspects your desire in a mate. Example of evolving language is instead of saying, “I want a man who is kind and smart,” you would say, “I want a man who considers my thoughts and opinions first, and after hearing what I say, knows how to make a wise judgment that I can easily respect.”
3. Measure UP. Make sure you are in the right space in your heart and head to receive what you want. In other words, make sure what you are asking for you are also able to offer those same qualities. Being able to embody what you want is the key for your order being granted. If you want a successful, sexy man who is kind, make sure you are successful, sexy and kind. It is out of natural order to place an order for something or someone you are not equipped to pay for. In this instance you measure up by paying with your personal characteristics, your morals, your discipline and your BS ( belief system).
GIVE IT TIME
4. Give it time. Allow your order to be processed and prepared for your ideal man. Your ability to wait patiently is the difference between a gourmet man or a TV dinner. Gourmet takes a little longer than a TV dinner. This is when I tell you DON’T SETTLE for less than what you know you deserve. For example, if the attendant gave you your food order and it was not prepared correctly, what do you do? You repeat the agreement for the order and wait until what you asked for, you get. What happens when you get tired of waiting for our ideal man order? You start mumbling, complaining, doubting, entertaining buzzards, and buzzard-like behavior in men just to have someone. DON’T SETTLE because when you do, you make it difficult to believe what you want really exists. Wait for everything you ordered.
NOW PLACE YOUR ORDER…
Finding a good man may appear to be one of the most challenging experiences some of us women face; however, the challenge is often diminished when you know what to do and where to go for help. Sometimes you will have to place several orders until you find the right combination of the man that fits you, but just understand that life will only give you what you are ready for, so place your order today because what you’re seeking is also seeking you.
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I had the honor of being a guest on my girl Nikki Ransom Alfred’s radio show. Nikki is the real deal Sexpert and in fact I am still gasping at her wisdom and experience when it comes to bedroom spice and tricks. I am so eager to share with you a very illuminating – power pact 10 minute interview in which I really got to the heart of why women are suffering and can’t find their ideal man. If you are sensitive don’t listen to this audio because I may smash your feelings. The reason I am so passionate about dating and love because most of “US” yes women of color didn’t get the adequate teaching or mentoring to understand men, what they want and how we are supposed to interact with them. There are very unique and specific do’s and do not’s when it comes to getting a man to take you off the market, make you his forever and be extremely good to you. Did you know that a man really wants to love and spoil you rotten? Did you know his first nature is to protect and cover you with his strength and wit? If you are not experiencing these attributes from your man or you don’t have a man at all you dayum sure need to listen to this audio.
The next steps...if you are serious about being on track to being a bride in 2014, I suggest you do two very specific things… Get on my mailing list so I can keep feeding you with my wisdom and mentoring in dating and love. The free subscription is located to the upper right and side of this page. The best thing is you will be able to grab your free gifts from me. Don’t block my blessing but not receiving what will help you get in the right place to receive love you want. Schedule your Love Diagnosis coaching, It’s about time for you to stop being lost in love and learn to manifest what you really want. I know what you want because last year I wanted the same thing and I got my man and girlllllll I am so blissfully happy. You want a man that you are very attracted to and wants you so much that he will do anything to keep you. Right? So stop holding yourself back and let’s get to the place where a healthy Alpha Male will find you to be his wife! To schedule your Love Diagnosis click here.
Lil Wayne sings the lyrics, “But you can’t have a man look at you for five seconds Without you being insecure You never credit yourself so when you got older It’s seems like you came back ten times over Now you’re sitting here in this damn corner Looking through all your thoughts and looking over your shoulder See, you had a lot of crooks tryna steal your heart Never really had luck, couldn’t never figure out
How to love, how to love”.
It is for that very reason that we as women will subconsciously repel men from wanting to be in our space and successfully date us because we allow our insecurities to create barriers. In is article with Ebony I was open about my insecurity of being a plus size woman and I used that as the logical reason for why men would not stick around. However, as I began to raise my love IQ, I understood that what ever you believe and feel …your man (men) will agree with you. In fact, the world will agree with you! So why not shift those feelings to work FOR you not AGAINST you?
For you EBONY indulgers … I’m excited to reveal to you through this feature “How to Own Your Sex Appeal” regardless of your insecurity. For greater intimacy on this topic click this link to own your copy of Breaking Invisible Chains and release yourself once and for all of the pain of your past and the burden of self-doubt chaos and shame. It’s not who you are that holds you back it’s who you THINK you’re NOT!
Are you ready to go a step further? I want to offer you a 45 minute private session with me so we can deal with your private insecurities and everything holding you back from love. Our time together can be locally in person if you’re in the Los Angeles area, by Skype or phone if you are long distance. Don’t let 2014 come and you are still dealing with the *ish you know keeps you hurting and stagnate in your life. I ask you again …. Are your ready to own your sex appeal?
This No Love Drama Moment VLOG is all about what a man wants from you. If you are having problems in your relationship and it seems he is pulling away, see if you are giving the four basic things your man needs other than sex to feel safe and connected to you.
Affirm Your Worth:
Recently, I was contacted by a freelance writer who was collecting data on 20 minute regimens that women can do stay balanced and keep themselves from feeling stressed. So I shared with her my Affirm Your Worth ritual. I want to share it with you because it is one of the first exercises you learn when you work with me as a love coach. The reason AYW is a powerful tool that you should add to your New Sexy Toolbox is it keeps you calm and filled with wisdom of self love. It helps you understand that to have others love you and to meet your need, you must first have to meet your own needs . Your world and relationships show your ability or inability to get your needs met.
Often when you hear a woman complaining that she feels like her man is not giving her attention or is being disrespectful to her. She may also feel misunderstood and emotionally out of control, those are symptoms to the greater issue that her soul is starving from attention and TLC. So my dear, stop blaming the world around you for your problems and issues and take the time each morning to look within and AYW is how you fill your soul and give you the TLC you deserve. My clients who make regular habits of Affirm Your Worth are very in tuned and aligned with happiness and love abundance. They are filled with love and love is attracted to them. They don’t feel depleted, resentful and frustrated.
The key to sustainable sexiness is to Affirm Your Worth:
Who told women that it was socially acceptable to give all you have to everyone but yourself? Be a superwoman for your job, family and community and then invite diseases into your body because emotionally you are bitter and resentful that no one in your circle is dedicated to taking care of you the way you take care of them? As an African –American life coach I have learned through personal experience and working with a predominately African American community the above mention is what we name as a strong black woman.
However, the first phase when working with me teaches her to find her authentic self and live within her purpose opposed to balance; which means increasing her value, inner strength and self respect. I call this AYW ( Affirm Your Worth). Affirm Your Worth teaches women that they are the CEO of their lives and what they do to themselves and for themselves will be reflected back to them in every area of their life. Women know how to abuse self in the name of wife, significant other, employee, business owner and servant at church but AYW coaches them on how to love themselves and receive love outside of them. The results lead to strong levels of attraction, personal satisfaction and being more devoted in ways that don’t leave her feeling depleted.
AYW – Affirm Your Worth Morning Ritual:
- Dialogue with God your feelings and prayers in a prayer book. Pour out your heart not with words but with writing.
- Read a passage from daily devotional or observe your dream board.
- Recite why you are loveable and worthy to receive love along with who you are and your purpose for living/vision. I Am affirmations are covered in my book Breaking Invisible Chains. Some clients chose to record it and listen to it in their own voice.
- Play one or more songs that inspire your soul.
- Go into meditation or just quietness for 10-15 minutes. Listen for instruction or information from God and write it down.
- Do your physical movement…walk, yoga, aerobics..Zumba …pole dance for 15-30 minutes.
- End the AYW with gratitude by writing everything you are grateful for.
This ritual has caused my clients to attract better relationships, better opportunities and the inner strength to release things in their lives that don’t serve their greater good. I salute and stand by the daily AYW ritual because AYW women are really the definition of strong women.
What is your love drama? I am here to serve:
My passion and purpose is to get your soul to happy through love. I would love for you to take that bold step to raise your hand to allow me to be your love and happiness mentor or coach whatever you feel comfortable using me as. I’m not sure if you know this but I have a sweet and sexy beginner’s package deal just for you. For 45 minutes, you and I can get to the root of your love drama, find out how to super-size your happiness. We can do this by video conference, phone or live in person. In addition, to our 45 minutes of private time together, you will get an e-copy of my book, Breaking Invisible Chains. If you are ready to end 2013 better than you started, I urge you to click this link and I will be waiting on you on the other side.
Hey Lady – did you have sex with your love interest faster than you expected and now he’s acting distant or only coming around when he wants more? This moment of No Love Drama video is for you.
After you view it …let’s discuss it right here on this blog or find me on Twitter @nekishamichelle.
You are probably feeling broken hearted because you gave it up too soon and now things have changed. You don’t have to go through this pain and betrayal alone. I can help you with a 45 minute private coaching session.
In our time together we can discuss how you want to get even with him, how to get him back OR my hope is that you will be ready to start the journey of calling in your ideal soul mate. Click here for your 45 minute session … I am here for you.
He would not allow you to leave his presence without you giving him your number or you taking his. At the time you felt like the most special girl alive. He’s cute, the right height and he worked his mouth piece saying all the right things and it made your stomach back flip in excitement. There was not just a little chemistry but a lot of chemistry and you silently said to yourself…”this might be the one”. You can’t stop thinking about him and keep checking your cell phone trying to see if he has contacted you. You even change the ringtone so you can differentiate between his calls and anyone else. Continue reading
There are times when we stay in a relationship even after we realize it’s not good for us. We do this hoping it will change because we just don’t want to be alone. In this video I talk about a recent client who is going through emotional turmoil because after two years of being with someone she cared for…he decided that she was not the person he could see his future with. A beautiful heart and attractive woman, she gave her heart, body and soul and after 2 years…she is shocked because he ended it. Continue reading
No Love Drama dot com was created to teach women how to be magnetic, sexy and successful in love relationships. The first step is to learn the necessary skills and rituals to manifest your ideal soul mate. The second step is to understand the purpose of your union and develop a lasting bond that weathers all types of challenging situations. The last is to duplicate the teaching and pass it on to other women so that we can be fruitful and multiply our love and families without Love Drama. Continue reading
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